Trying out sex before marriage is often presented as a very reasonable course of action. A boy will say, “You wouldn’t buy a pair of shoes without trying them, so why marry without first of trying out sex”?
There are several reasons why the “try it out first” the idea is not good. Marrying someone cannot be compared to buying a pair of shoes. A woman is not to be thought as a piece of merchandise to be “tried out,” but a life partner to be loved and cherished. She is precious and priceless in Gods sight, and she ought to be the same in your sight. Remember, your looking for a life partner not just a sex partner.
Furthermore, a before-marriage test of sex is not a valid sample of what sex will be like within the marriage.
How to avoid this pitfall: don’t accept the foolish “try out sex before marriage” idea. If you have real love going for you, you don’t need to worry about your sex life being good. It will be!
Saturday, November 7, 2009
8 Living together:
Living together without the benefit of a marriage ceremony has become popular among many people. Men usually like the “living together” arrangement. Why shouldn’t they? They have somebody to wash their clothes, cook their meals and provide sex when they want it –all with little or no responsibility on their part.
They can come and go as they please. When they want to leave permanently, there is nothing to keep them from doing so.
The arrangement is not quite as satisfactory to the woman. The most common complaint among live-in women is, “sometimes I get the feeling that I am being used.” It is no wonder that they get that feeling
When you ask a woman why they chose such an arrangement, the most frequent answer they give is that they are looking forward to getting married. But their hopes for marriage are often disappointed. The men usually reason, “why should I marry her when I am getting all the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities? Besides, I may want a change some day and it will be much easier this way”
That’s pure selfishness! Even if a woman manages to such a man to marry her, she won’t have much
The false idea that marriage thrives best when it is on a “come and go as you please” basics is expressed by the popular song entitled “gentle on my mind.” In this song, the man says that it was not the “ink-stained signatures on some old marriage certificate” that kept him coming to his lover’s home. It knew that he could leave anything he wanted to. It was his freedom to come and go as he pleased that kept her “gentle on his mind”
How foolish! And how selfish! He does not say anything about the woman and how she feels watching him come and go “as he pleases” and the song says nothing about who pays the bills in such a home, nor does it take into account the little children who may be born to such a relationship-children who would always e wondering, “where is Daddy? When is he coming home?”
A successful marriage and a happy home are based on unselfish love and commitment between husband and wife. You will never have such a home with the “come and go as you please” arrangement of living together.
How to avoid this pitfall: don’t accept a cheap, immoral “play marriages” wait for the real thing.
They can come and go as they please. When they want to leave permanently, there is nothing to keep them from doing so.
The arrangement is not quite as satisfactory to the woman. The most common complaint among live-in women is, “sometimes I get the feeling that I am being used.” It is no wonder that they get that feeling
When you ask a woman why they chose such an arrangement, the most frequent answer they give is that they are looking forward to getting married. But their hopes for marriage are often disappointed. The men usually reason, “why should I marry her when I am getting all the benefits of marriage without the responsibilities? Besides, I may want a change some day and it will be much easier this way”
That’s pure selfishness! Even if a woman manages to such a man to marry her, she won’t have much
The false idea that marriage thrives best when it is on a “come and go as you please” basics is expressed by the popular song entitled “gentle on my mind.” In this song, the man says that it was not the “ink-stained signatures on some old marriage certificate” that kept him coming to his lover’s home. It knew that he could leave anything he wanted to. It was his freedom to come and go as he pleased that kept her “gentle on his mind”
How foolish! And how selfish! He does not say anything about the woman and how she feels watching him come and go “as he pleases” and the song says nothing about who pays the bills in such a home, nor does it take into account the little children who may be born to such a relationship-children who would always e wondering, “where is Daddy? When is he coming home?”
A successful marriage and a happy home are based on unselfish love and commitment between husband and wife. You will never have such a home with the “come and go as you please” arrangement of living together.
How to avoid this pitfall: don’t accept a cheap, immoral “play marriages” wait for the real thing.
9 Christians marrying non-Christians:
many Christians are bound in miserable, unhappy marriages because they disobeyed a plain command of the Lord. In His Word, He commands us believers not to marry unbelievers. It’s recorded in 2corinthians 6:14 “be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers….”
Christians who are contemplating marriage to unbelievers feel that somehow their particular situation is different and that this command does not apply to them. But Gods Word plainly says that Christians are not to be yoked together with unbelievers.
How to avoid this pitfall: determine that you will never, under any circumstances, marry a non-Christian
Christians who are contemplating marriage to unbelievers feel that somehow their particular situation is different and that this command does not apply to them. But Gods Word plainly says that Christians are not to be yoked together with unbelievers.
How to avoid this pitfall: determine that you will never, under any circumstances, marry a non-Christian
10 Christian dating non-Christian
Many Christian young people do not understand why they are warned not to date non-Christians. The reason is this: dating often leads to engagement and marriage.
You may not realize it but Satan is quite a matchmaker. He loves to mess up the lives of Christian young people by getting them married to the wrong persons. He does this by encouraging them to date non-Christians.
Most Christian young people don’t see anything wrong with dating non-Christians. Remember a pitfall is a concealed trap. You don’t see the danger of it until you fall into it, and then it’s too late.
Remember this, if a girl marries a man who is not a Christian will be joined together for life with one which is a child of devil, and for the rest of her life she will have Satan for her father in-law. The Christian who says “I have no intention of marrying an unbeliever but I think it’s all right dating one” is overlooking the fact that every such date has the potential of a disastrous life-long relationship. Someone has well said, “Any Christian foolish enough to date an unbeliever is foolish enough to marry one” even if the dating does not lead to marriage, it causes problems. Spending time with the wrong person is opening you up to an emotional involvement that will not be easy to get out of. Once you have given your heart and emotions to someone, it is difficult to take them back, even when you know you should.
How to avoid this pitfall: don’t date non-Christians. If you don’t date unbelievers, you won’t marry one.
You may not realize it but Satan is quite a matchmaker. He loves to mess up the lives of Christian young people by getting them married to the wrong persons. He does this by encouraging them to date non-Christians.
Most Christian young people don’t see anything wrong with dating non-Christians. Remember a pitfall is a concealed trap. You don’t see the danger of it until you fall into it, and then it’s too late.
Remember this, if a girl marries a man who is not a Christian will be joined together for life with one which is a child of devil, and for the rest of her life she will have Satan for her father in-law. The Christian who says “I have no intention of marrying an unbeliever but I think it’s all right dating one” is overlooking the fact that every such date has the potential of a disastrous life-long relationship. Someone has well said, “Any Christian foolish enough to date an unbeliever is foolish enough to marry one” even if the dating does not lead to marriage, it causes problems. Spending time with the wrong person is opening you up to an emotional involvement that will not be easy to get out of. Once you have given your heart and emotions to someone, it is difficult to take them back, even when you know you should.
How to avoid this pitfall: don’t date non-Christians. If you don’t date unbelievers, you won’t marry one.
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